WARNING: This blog contains strong language. Some readers may find it disturbing and offending. Reader discretion is advised.
Humans are social animals. We all are aware of this phrase as we hear it multiple times during our schooling. Humans are always in need of other people for cultivating relationships in terms of friends, partners, families, and so on. For creating new connections and developing a favorable relationship with them we do socializing. Some people are good at it and some are not.
After getting too much importance, love, and attention from our social circles, we feel a sense of belongingness and think that we are an important part of this environment. We tell ourselves a poisonous lie that we are important to others and we are not replaceable. However, in a bigger picture, the reality is different. Sooner or later people will leave you, intentionally or unintentionally.
Heartbreaks, separations, deaths, rejections, and goodbyes are always hurtful. Every meaningful relationship has such downsides. The majority of people in their 20s and 30s face such crises and don’t know how to act during such mishaps, which ultimately leads them towards chronic anxiety and depression.
Life is a roller coaster ride, the ups and downs in it make our life worth living. Everyone wishes to remain happy in their lives but I believe without sadness you can’t understand the feeling of happiness. Sadness completes happiness and is an essential element in life.
In my previous blogs, I always wrote about positive thinking. No doubt you have to stay positive in every tough situation, however, seeing things how they are and accepting the reality is also important. You can’t put yourself on fire and stay positive that nothing is gonna happen to you.
Therefore today I might sound negative and my words certainly hurt your sentiments. But I did not find any polite way to convey this fact to you. Plus, without hurting your feelings and shattering your confidence of self-importance I will never make you understand the following reality.
Maybe it sounds harsh but you are replaceable. I know it’s hurtful to digest such a truthful reality. But when people come and go in your life only then you will realize that you are just a number on their spreadsheet and nobody actually cares.
Let me be more precise here. If you disappear or die today only few people will cry on your grave and after a while, everyone will get busy with their own problems. There is nothing wrong with that because that’s what life is. You were born alone (unless you are not a twin) and you will die alone.
Therefore, accept the reality and stop hoping that someone actually cares about you, as, in reality, nobody gives a fuck about your feelings. Life is unfair therefore Instead of crying on difficult situation or after someone, work on your emotional intelligence (EQ) and become a toughest individual emotionally.
“We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.”~Ernest Hemingway
People are afraid to be tough, cold-blooded, and ruthless emotionally, as our society labeled such individuals as bad influencers. However, I believe it’s ok to be bad in someone’s story. Dita Von Teese once said
“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”~Dita Von Teese
Now, you might be thinking that if nobody actually cares then why should I have to care about others? Let’s become selfish. Hold your horses here. If you start thinking about this too much then maybe you will get caught up in an inferiority complex or become an absolute animal. Finding balance in your thoughts is also important.
“People who have no hold over their process of thinking are likely to be ruined by liberty of thought. If thought is immature, liberty of thought becomes a method of converting men into animals.”~Allama Muhammad Iqbal
Being emotionally tough does not mean you have to stop caring about others and start treating them like trash.
Maybe you don’t realize but our life is about giving instead of taking. Doing good and taking care of others, without having any expectations should be your sole objective. Expectations can lead to disappointments, and when you give without expecting anything in return only then you get free from worries, sadness, & unhappiness.
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“If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.”~John Spence
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"People who have no hold over their process of thinking are likely to be ruined by liberty of thought. If thought is immature, liberty of thought becomes a method of converting men into animals."